Things always to say to pregnant women/new moms:

There were some comments that people said during my pregnancy and new motherhood that should be repeated to every pregnant woman and new mom.  These comments are encouraging, which is the place we want to stay when talking to someone so doped up on hormones!  Ha! 

“You look great!”

-This is always a good one, especially needed when feeling huge or after having the baby and not getting enough sleep.

“You are going to be such a good mother.”

-Most pregnant women are questioning whether or not they are going to be a good mom, this reassuring comment is wonderful.

“How are you feeling?”

-It’s nice to know someone cares about you.

“Is there anything I can do/get for you?”

-If you have suggestions (get you water, put something away, make a meal, buy something), that’s even better.

“You’ve lost the weight so fast!” 

-I loved when people noticed this, it made me feel more back-to-normal.  It’s nice to hear, even when you know it’s just been a few pounds.  Someone else noticing this is so uplifting.  Another variation, “I can’t believe you had a baby!  You look so good!”

“Can I get the door for you?”

-Always a nice one.  Sometimes maneuvering a big belly or diaper bag/car seat is difficult, not having to worry about opening the door is such a help.

“Your baby is beautiful.”

-Who doesn’t want to hear that something they made is beautiful?

“You are a great mom.”

-One of the highest compliments I have received (yes, I tear up every time).  It is also reassuring at times when I feel like a mess and that I don’t know what I’m doing.  Compare it to telling someone they are good at their job, when their job is one of the most important things to them.